Its not just about U n Me.

Holy Matrimony. Wedlock. Shaadi.

Yes, it is about those 'beautiful' time in your life when you (or in most cases your parents) decide that you need to act your age and find someone who can tolerate you (yes, love, in all likelihood would be just a passing phase). So if you are lucky you have already found yourself the One. If not, then welcome to the world of Arranged Marriages.

Here's a confession being made in public (no, I'm not an Alcoholic) .. I'm going thru' the 'Need to find right man NOW' syndrome. Like most other young girls (yes, I prefer to still be called a girl .. not lady) my age, I'm succumbing to this syndrome.

Here's some symptoms so you could get your doubts cleared, if you think you are suffering from it -
Symptom no.1 - Avoiding social gathering (especially those that involve relatives (read: Aunties) who have decided they were born so they can find you your knight in shining armour.

Symptom no.2 -  You are registered with more than one Matrimony site. And believe you me, there are people who are registered with 4 - 5. So possibly two is decent, 5 means you better visit a doc.

Symptom no. 3 - You almost add a good looking stranger to your social network profile (Who knows where it all begins?)

Symptom no. 4 - Your parents are screening every friend of the opposite sex. And when you return from an outing with them, they look at you with this suggestive smile and say "So... ????"

Symptom no. 5 - You just opened your Facebook profile this morning and saw the wedding pictures of one more classmate and are thinking that if he/she could find someone then  .... (you know the rest)

Symptom no. 6 - You read the above 5 symptoms and said, "I can add so many more to this"

By the end of the entire ordeal, if you do land up finding the man/woman of your dreams, you move to phase 2 where you are possibly turning into Bridezilla. Everyone and their neighbor is going to have an opinion.

It all starts with the Groom itself. A zillion questions; who is he, where from, about his family, how did it happen, have you'll fixed a date yet???? ... (phew)



What color is your gown going to be (yes, the big debate about white and off-white or pearl white.... )? The amount of jewelery, the guest-list,  the food, the flowers and yes the latest .. the theme for the wedding....


How could I forget - where are you going for your honeymoon?  (for crying out loud).

So really do all these things really matter? Where it all began was just a companion you wanted to spend your life with.

So does the sanctity  of a beautiful beginning with a loved one really stay. Suddenly its not about you and me anymore. What does become of it is just one BIG FAT Wedding.

Memories

You woke up this morning with no memory of yesterday
or of so many days that had gone by.

No. There were no candlelight dinners, no moonlit walks on the beach, no long drives.
But there were those special moments that meant more.

Like the day we first met. The day you walked into that cafe and complimented me on how beautiful my writing was...

Like the night we spoke to each other endlessly . After a drained battery and a four-hour conversation we realized it was Love. That's when you coaxed me and begged me to say those three words.

Or the time you reached out for my hand at the movies and held it, and made me feel like the high-school romance on screen was coming true off screen.

The words, the arguments, the fights and the peck on the cheek.
The little gestures, the winks, the jokes and the giggles.
The gleaming eyes and the yearning for a kiss even if we were miles apart ...

The impatience to see each other, even when at times our dates were not more than ten minutes.
The two word text messages, and the three word "I Love You".

You've lost every moment but as for me...
I 'm going to lock it up in words that you will read someday,
And recall who I was and who we were.

That day I'll be there.
I'll be there like a prayer on your lips.
Like the faded roses on your table that withered 'coz you didn't pay heed.
Like the photo frame on your nightstand, of one of those moments captured.


That day you may not find me sitting next to you like I do every moment now.
But I promise to be with you forever...
To linger somewhere in your thoughts and in your memories.
Fading away as time goes by yet in union with you forever.